The Gift of being single

To all the Singles out there.....
Got this email from a friend.



TOO often people want what they want, or think they want at the moment, which is
usually "happiness" right now. The irony of their impatience is that
only by learning to wait, and by willingness to accept the bad with the good do
we usually attain those things that are truly worthwhile. I have a blessing
which is sometimes seen as a curse. i am blessed with the gift of being single.
For most of us, it seems the world has already come up with its own set of
expectations on how we should live life. The world expects us to finish school
in our early twenties, get a job, and find the love of our lives by the time we
reach our mid-twenties, marry and have kids. But the thing is, not everyone
sees their dreams come true in the same way. In this article, I shall try to
endeavor to change the way the world looks at being single.
The Art of Contentement.
For most of us, being single will be more of a phase than a final destination.
This is the best place to practice the art of contentment. Someday, I am s most
of us will fall in love and get married. But the thing is, love will always be
tested. Someone more handsome, more charming, richer, funnier, sweeter would
come along. If you have not practiced the art of contentment as a single
person, chances are you would be tempted to want that and not cherish your
chosen one. Practicing the art of contentment as a single person means that you
take what life gives you, good or bad, you're willing to see it through. It
means you don't walk away every time things get tough because it builds in you
patience, perseverance, understanding and a hundred different virtues that
people in a hurry will never have. Being single means you would find how it
feels to be alone thus, allowing you to cherish every moment you spend with
your chosen one. The art of contentment means you wouldn't mind if life had to
make you wait for so long to find the love of your life, because you know that
the waiting would only make the finding much sweeter.
A Time to Know Yourself Better.
Being single is a time of your life when you can get to know yourself better.
You can pursue different interests and passions without having to ask another
person's approval. it is a phase when you can keep focus on other things,
discover your potentials and talents, and see yourself become more than what
you expect to be. Allow yourself to surprise you. Stop wasting precious energy
trying to figure out why you're still romantically unattached. It's all in the
mind. Take the time to go see your friends, spend time with your family, do
charity work and you will realize that you are not, and never for a moment, was
alone. Try to get to know yourself first before you try to get to know other
people. To be truly loved means to be known and accepted for who you are. How
do you expect other people to know you and to love you, when you don't know who
and what you really are?
A Choice Between Good and Best.
Sometimes the dilemmas we face are not between what is absolutely bad and
absolutely good. Sometimes, it's between good and best. Treat this stage of
your life as a phase to evaluate who is good for you and who is best for you.
The heart just knows and it doesn't need any romantically charged scenario to
decide on the matter. Trust in your heart, and trust that time will eventually
lead you to, not to the perfect partner, but to the most suitable partner for
you. being single is a phase of life that we need to be thankful for, because
being single means our hearts have yet to choose the best one for us.
Almost a Non-committal.
Jane Austen once wrote, that it is a truth universally acknowledged that a
single man (or in our times a woman), in possession of a good fortune is in
search of a spouse (just to be politically correct). Well, that was what the
old school wanted us to believe in. married life is a path most of us would
take, however, it is not the only path there is. Relieve yourself of the
pressure and stop making every single, straight guy friend a prospect. You
have no business "entrapping" them and asking (which is more like
"putting a gun in the head") them of their exclusive attention, if
you're not ready for commitment yourself. Sometimes, when you spend too much
time trying to find a boyfriend, you normally end up marrying the first loser
who comes to your door.
Take your time, the world will wait.
Being married doesn't guarantee that it will make your life happy. It doesn't
guarantee anything at all. Sometimes, it only brings two miserable people
together only to make their life even more miserable. Without the right
intention, the emotional maturity, financial security and of course, unwavering
love, you're better off unattached.
Living life.
Don't put your life on hold for Mr. Right but don't let it waste away with Mr.
Wrong. Life is about things that you do and happen to you everyday. it's not
about the things that could have happened but never did, or things that you
think would happen in the future. Live life now. Live it to the fullest and
stop beating yourself up, trying to be perfect on a Saturday night date. Allow
life to surprise you with it's most wonderful blessings.